Money Safety: The Energetic Shift From Holding Money to Being Held by Money

Money has always been an energetic mirror for me, a reflection of safety, flow, and the parts of myself I didn’t know needed healing.

The Money Stories I Grew Up With

As somebody who grew up around a family that always said ‘save money for a rainy day’ and ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’ it has been a constant battle with the money program within me.

Don’t get me wrong, I was taught by parents that were very ‘book smart’ with money and knew what they were doing. They migrated to Australia for ‘opportunity’ and they were not going to let themselves or their families down. Even at the cost of their own safety within. I am also super grateful that I always had more than I ever needed, and was provided for, even to this day.

However, this belief system hasn't always resonated with me. It’s like a tug of war within.

The Internal Tug of War

It’s the battle of using money for safety. It’s creating a belief where ‘I keep money safe’ rather than ‘money keeps me safe’. There’s a lot more to this, we can go as deep as to the safety of the masculine. Where I believe it runs deep for me.

I have strong DNA codes within me that money is for survival and that every bit counts. Yes, we can circulate it, but always ensure more is coming in than you are spending. Which is normal right?

But what if these codes only allowed enough circulation to ‘keep you safe’ and weren’t able to expand any bigger than that, as the circulation becomes unsafe or unbalanced? Some would call this a glass ceiling, some would call it ‘enough’, some would call it a blockage. All of which can be correct.

My Early Relationship with Money

From a young age, I’ve always wanted to make money. I have always been fascinated by money. You would always catch me counting my grandparents’ bags of 1c & 2c coins (which Australia hasn’t had for centuries).

Mum told me I would become a banker one day because I always loved counting money. Whenever they would make cash money at markets or at their shop she would say ‘let Adelina count it’. I never knew why I had such a fascination for it, but now I know. Because I have a deeper understanding of what that money brings. I didn’t know then of course, I just intuitively followed my energy.

As I grew older, I always ensured I had a good savings account ‘for a rainy day’. Don’t get me wrong I have always and will always be good at spending money too. But it always seemed to flow in and out, with a small safety net.

I remember this one time in Bali, we went and visited Katut’s brother (from Eat, Pray, Love) and he told me, “you be careful of your spending because often what comes in, goes out.” Which checks out, he was correct.

Though this might seem fine to most and I am sure most people probably have the same flow with money, if they are like me, it gets to a point where you want to actually shift this flow and mindset around money.

But Wait, I Feel Safe and in Control, So What’s the Problem?

But safety and control aren’t the same thing and that’s where the shift begins.

The problem is you are controlling your abundance. You aren’t allowing the unlimited flow to move through you as it naturally should. You are controlling the flow.

As a female especially, not allowing flow really diminishes our being. It puts us in fight or flight. It makes us push and pull to receive. It stops our natural God-given flow of abundance to move through us effortlessly as it should.

What Awareness Does

What happens when you put awareness around this? The structures start to crumble and then, your world starts to crumble. This isn’t easy, that’s why we are so afraid to do so.

What this looks like for me, for example? More outgoings than incomings as I hold on tightly to those reserves. It looks like a constant fight or flight trying to work out how to increase my resources. How to bring more money in - not flow - money. It feels like a very masculine protector mode. Something I was never made for.

How It Shows Up in the Body

Then this push and pull shows up in the physical. Constant stomach issues, inflammation, overeating, under eating, overspending, constantly thinking about money exchanges and the list goes on.

Not to mention, once you start losing control of one thing, you search to control another. Like weight. If I can just get my body to look exactly how I need it to be, then everything else will work out in the end.

A constant battle of control is what this can do.

But it doesn’t need to be that way.

The Spiral of Realisation

Once you put awareness on what is coming up, that is the work. Sometimes it spirals up, different layers appearing at different times. Here is my example of how it spiralled through me.

For me the battle of the need to keep money safe vs money keeping me safe is two-pronged. Firstly, it is the need to control what I believe is ‘mine’. And secondly it is not allowing the masculine to keep me safe.

This stops it coming in for me, from both angles. See, if I cannot push through the resistance, I cannot allow another to keep me safe. Which ironically is all I have ever wanted deep down. But subconsciously I have been blocking it with my need to control. So my control mechanism is: “If I am the one creating the safety, I can never be unsafe.”

If I soften, it might all disappear.

This showed up in my reality with it being very difficult for me to receive. If I was to receive, then I would owe something, that my control is taken from me. This is a heavy burden to live with, as you are in a constant dynamic of giving and not receiving, and eventually this leads to the universe being like “ok, give and you shall not receive as this is safe for you.”

Not in a bad way at all - the universe, God, our guides, all want what we want. They want what’s best for what we think is best. If we are constantly showing them how we feel, it will continually be given back to us. Especially if you are someone like me, who quite easily can get whatever she wants. Even if it’s not actually what I want deep down.

These are all ego-centred safety mechanisms and they are ok. There is actually nothing wrong with any of this, unless you are over it and want change. But if you are ok where you are, then be ok where you are. That’s how we are meant to live.

Divine Timing & Free Will

It doesn’t really matter which way it goes, it almost always goes exactly how it was intended. Even bringing things to light, working through them and making drastic changes within, then drastic changes are made externally. This is all done in divine timing. There is no wrong or right.

Somebody recently told me that everything is already written, planned out and we don’t have free will. To me, I see some truth in that. I would even say, I find safety in that. But some would not. They would want free will to do whatever they want.

Perhaps in a way, you do have free will, but it’s just a written path disguised as free will? We really don’t know and these are questions that if you search high and low, you will probably find an answer either way. But it’s your beliefs, and you standing in your beliefs, that make your truth the truth.

So What Can We Do When This Comes Up?

If we have this constant battle with money, flow of abundance, the need for control, or even the resistance around allowing the masculine in - both within and externally - what can we do?

We often don’t need to do anything until we feel called to do so. For me, I couldn’t handle the need for control anymore and not allowing what I truly deeply desired in. That can sometimes set it off. Or if things seem to constantly go wrong, especially around money and relationships, it might be time to deep dive into what may need to shift within.

It could be something big, or something so small where you’re like “oh that’s it?”. This doesn’t need to be a constant battleground for change. I do not believe life was intended that way.

Yes, some of us are shifting generational things, some are at the beginning of the generational patterns. Either way, you get to choose when and how you go about it. Or do you?

A Tool That Helps Me - EFT Tapping

If you want to try something quick and easy, most of you know I love EFT tapping. So I created this sequence for myself and wanted to share if you are called to practice it too.

Here is my example below.

EFT TAPPING SEQUENCE: MONEY SAFETY

Setup (Karate Chop Point - side of the hand)

Start by repeating this 3 times while tapping your karate chop point:

Even though I don’t fully trust money to stay or keep coming in

I deeply and completely love, honour, and accept myself.

Even though I’ve learned I must hold onto money to be safe

I’m open to allowing a new story — one where money holds me.

Even though part of me fears money will leave if I let go

I choose to trust the flow of life, and I’m learning that I am always supported.

Once you have said the 3 affirmations above, one after the other, 3 times, we start with the tapping rounds.

Round 1 — Acknowledging the Fear - Tap and say out loud each affirmation and repeat each round 3 times.

Eyebrow: I don’t trust that money will stay.

Side of Eye: I’ve always felt I need to hold onto it tightly.

Under Eye: It feels unsafe to let it move freely.

Under Nose: What if it disappears and I’m left unprotected?

Chin: This belief has kept me in control but also in fear.

Collarbone: I honour the part of me that just wants to feel safe.

Under Arm: I learned this from my family — saving equals safety.

Top of Head: But maybe safety isn’t only about what I keep.

Round 2 — Opening to a New Story - Tap and say out loud each affirmation and repeat each round 3 times

Eyebrow: What if money loves being with me?

Side of Eye: What if it wants to keep me safe?

Under Eye: What if I can trust it to return again and again?

Under Nose: I don’t have to hold it — I can be held by it.

Chin: I’m ready to release the old pattern of control.

Collarbone: I allow money to circulate and support me.

Under Arm: It’s safe to let money flow.

Top of Head: I’m safe to receive, spend, and expand.

Round 3 — Reprogramming Trust & Safety - Tap and say out loud each affirmation and repeat each round 3 times

Eyebrow: I now choose to feel safe in the flow.

Side of Eye: Every time money moves, I’m still supported.

Under Eye: I honour how much I’ve already created and received.

Under Nose: Money is an extension of divine support.

Chin: It’s safe to let go of control and trust the current.

Collarbone: I let money keep me safe.

Under Arm: I’m worthy of being cared for by life itself.

Top of Head: I am safe. I am supported. I am open to infinite flow.

Close

Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose and exhale out through your mouth.

Then softly repeat:

“It’s safe to receive.

It’s safe to be supported.

Money and I are on the same team.”

You can do this every morning or every evening until you feel you are complete. You can also repeat multiple times, starting at Round 1 again, if you feel you aren’t done that day and need to feel or go deeper. 

Here is a video for your reference. 

Tapping points for reference

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