Taking Back Your Power To Choose Again

Imagine a world where we never embraced the unknown - within or outside of ourselves.

Seriously, take a moment. Imagine that.

As children, most things were brand new. First steps, first words, first falls. We didn’t hesitate to try. Sometimes we got hurt, sometimes we didn’t. But rarely did we stop ourselves out of fear.

Then we grew up.

And somewhere along the way, we stopped embracing the unknown.

We let fear in.

We started chasing praise over curiosity - approval from parents, siblings, teachers.

We learned quickly what made others proud, and we followed it.

They had learned from someone else too. And so the cycle continued.

But what if I told you that this is just a cycle - and cycles can be broken?

What if I told you that you get to choose?

Not your mum. Not your dad. Not even the version of you shaped by them.

You have a choice in every single thing you do, no matter your age or history.

And yes, choice can feel scary.

Because it means we no longer get to blame anyone else.

But that’s also where your power is.

What if the thing standing in your way... is you?

Not to shame you - but to free you.

When you take ownership, you reclaim your path. You stop waiting. You stop blaming. You start living.

We are all living life for the first time (at least in this lifetime).

We are all given a mind, a soul, a heart.

And we are all given the gift of choice.

If you could start again - with the awareness you have now, would you?

I wouldn’t.

Because everything I’ve experienced, the joy, the pain, the shadows, the awakening, has brought me here. And though it has brought me to my knees more times than I had wished, it has brought me here.

With that said, I love who I’ve become. I wouldn’t risk losing that for anything.

That’s the point.

The path isn’t about blame.

Blame for the path or people is a choice.

It’s about acceptance.

All that has shaped you, the shadows, the silence, the struggle, these are not wrong. They just want acknowledgment. And once seen, they can start to alchemise.

Then you get to choose again.

Choose joy.

Choose happiness.

Choose wonder.

Just like you did when you were a child.

Let me share a personal experience that might help go deeper into this topic.

I was raised in a strict Catholic, Italian family.

Church every Sunday. Baptised, confirmed, holy communion.

From a young age I was instilled with fears from God. Not the God I believe in now, the man in the sky God.

That if I did wrong, he would punish me.

But over time, I realised it wasn’t God’s voice in my head - it was my parents’.

Their expectations. Their fears. Their pain, passed on to me.

As a child, I just wanted to be loved. So I lied, I hid parts of myself, I bent to make others happy.

But now I see: I had a choice.

I just didn’t have the awareness to recognise it.

If I’d had awareness then, I would’ve known:

Their anger wasn’t mine to carry.

Their love wasn’t conditional.

Their reactions were not my responsibility.

And even if they couldn’t accept me fully, that didn’t make me unworthy.

Now I know better. Now I choose differently.

And that’s what awareness gives us: the ability to choose again.

If I hadn’t taken back my power, I’d still be working a 9-5, pleasing others while quietly suffering.

“Comfortable in the uncomfortable,” as I like to say.

But I stepped off the ledge, climbed the rocks, and I made it to the other side.

And once you taste this level of awareness, you can’t un-see it.

You could turn back, but why would you?

So I leave you with a few questions.

Let them guide your inner knowing over the next few days:

• Where in my life am I prioritising other people’s happiness over my own? What exactly are those moments? Why?

• If I could make one decision that’s purely mine, without it affecting anyone else, what would it be?

• If I could say one thing to my 6-year-old self right now, what would I tell them?

And when you're ready, sit with that 6-year-old version of you.

Close your eyes.

Feel them next to you.

And share that message - gently, truthfully, lovingly.

Then listen to what they say back.

Because maybe, just maybe… they’ve been waiting for you to choose.

Are you taking back your power?

Adelina xo

AI Image: A woman moving forward, choosing herself. Taking back her power.